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The thing that
has surprised me most over the past few weeks is how easy it was.
It was easy to fall in love. There was no complication, no hilarious
misunderstanding, no Bill Pullman to be dumped. I met him, we
talked, we put our arms around each other and I was in love. Simple,
easy, and really, unavoidable. It feels right. It feels righter
than anything I've ever felt.
His name
is Scott Tenorman. Well, it’s not, really, but that's the
pseudonym we decided upon while watching South
Park one night. It's all about Radiohead. Scott loves
Radiohead. We've already established that he is allowed to leave
me for Thom Yorke, but that's okay since I'm permitted to leave
him for Tina Fey. But, basically, unless Tina or Thom come calling,
nobody's leaving.
We met
because of this site. Boyfriend
Search 2002, it turned out, was not such a failure
after all. When I went to the TWoPcon, a lovely woman who we'll
call Pez told me she had read my site and asked if the search
was still on. She said she had someone who "hates tomatoes
as much as you do." I did not realize that my hatred for
tomatoes was my defining characteristic, but if it meant a date,
why not. I gave her my number, she passed it to Scott, and so
on. She told me that he was my age, lived very close to me and
somewhat resembled Anthony Edwards. I am a sucker for a balding
man with glasses. I have no idea why, but I am.
We talked
on the phone a couple of times. He seemed very funny and smart
and we seemed to have a lot in common. We scheduled a coffee date
for Wednesday, but after a Tuesday spent exchanging e-mails, he
asked to move up the date. No one had ever moved up a meeting
with me, let alone a date.
You see,
I don't have what one would call an extensive dating history.
Until this point, of the handful of dates I'd been on, none had
been second dates. In fact on the most successful date, the guy
had taken me to Arby's. But, something about this one felt different.
The first
time I saw him, through the window of the Starbucks on Laurel
Canyon and Riverside, my immediate thought was that he was way
too cute for me. All of my faults began dancing in my head, waltzing
along to the cool jazz version of The Nutcracker Suite being piped
into the place. I smoke. I don't have a job right now. I have
an excess chin in photographs. There's back hair - not a lot -
but it's there.
The minute
he shook my hand, though, I immediately started to feel like maybe
I could tell this guy about my 10 year Lego soap opera without
him thinking I was the freakiest boy alive. Plus, he is so cute.
Seriously, he's fucking adorable.
After
about 20 minutes of really good conversation I dropped a hint
that I smoke. A look came across his face. A beautiful, beatific
look which can only be identified by nicotine addicts: Smoker's
Relief. He smokes, I smoke, everybody's happy. From then on, it
was bliss. We agreed to meet up again the next night and he gave
me a hug when we said goodbye. Already, the most action I'd ever
had on a date.
I had
to leave early to see the midnight show of Two Towers.
I had waited an entire year, looking forward to this movie above
all else and now I so did not want to go. When I got there, I
could barely concentrate on the movie. And it's a damn good movie.
I had never had this feeling before, this feeling of attraction
and giddiness and hope. There was so much hope.
The next
day we exchanged some flirtatious e-mail which culminated in him
telling me he thought I was dreamy. No one has ever called me
dreamy before. And just so there's no confusion, I thought he
was pretty damn dreamy himself. We met up the next night, wandered
around shops and ended up kissing in front of Pier One Imports.
Because we're just that gay.
I'll
stop with the play by play, not so much because it may bore the
reader as much as recounting it may cause me to burst into a showtune.
I think I'll be writing about this a lot in the future, though.
My life has changed so drastically in such a short time. I'm part
of a we now and I've never been that before. I can never again
crack wise about never having been really loved. To say nothing
of that whole technical virgin thing. In some ways, I am a different
person, even after a relatively short amount of time. The Mark
I was, the lonely, snarky, bitter, cheerfully depressed gay guy,
is gone. He's dead and he's not coming back. Yeah, I can still
snark and I'm still bitter about some things, but even if Scott
breaks my heart, I've known love. I'm changed. And that's kind
of scary.
I worry
if I can still be funny. And, if this entry is any indication,
that's not unfounded. So much of my humor came from my loneliness,
my single-ness and now I'm a couple. Basically, I'm happy and
that's a new feeling for me.
Now,
don't get me wrong, I like this happiness thing. I like it a lot.
I like him. I like the way he makes me feel and I like the way
I can make him feel. In fact, that's my favorite part. But it's
new and I'm unsure of myself. But hey, that means my angst is
still alive and well. I do love my angst.
So, Boyfriend
Search 2002 is officially over. It was down to the wire, but it
finished stronger than I ever imagined. Thanks to everyone who
helped, especially Pez. Your CD is on its way. And Scott, just
so it's very clear. I love you. A lot.
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